It is really true that there is no perfect mother or father. No matter how hard parents try it hard, there will be lapses and it is understandable. However, there are ways that parents can do to have a more effective parenting. Here are the things parents can do.
As a parent, an important thing you should build is the confidence and self-esteem of your children. Make sure that you can praise and compliment your kids every time that can accomplish a small or big task. This lets your children feel proud and think that they are indeed capable of doing things. Compliment your kids even when they have made things in a wrong way. You can just tell them that next time they can do better and never use offensive words. It is also good that you can show it yourself how a certain thing should be done.
Make sure that you can also appreciate them if they do things without being told. This is because there are times that the kids have the initiative to do something. Make sure that you can praise them everytime they do it.
Try to be generous with all types of rewards. Even though giving a positive comment to your child’s acts is good, giving rewards can have more impact. It can be hugs, kisses, cash, candy, an outing to a park, or a new shirt. They will be very happy once they receive the rewards and be motivated to do more good things for more rewards.
Do not forget to also set and be consistent with your discipline. Your kids will not really grow without being disciplined. Doing this is a must for every household. If your child is disciplined, he or she will know how to do the acceptable behaviours only and learn self-control. Some examples of house rules are the prohibition of cellphone use while eating or disallowing the use of television before doing the homework. Remember to set rules that will not use things to hit them or harsh words that are offensive. You should also be consistent with your rules and never to feel bad when you have to give the consequences. You should make them understand why they have to follow some house rules.
Give enough time for your kids. Parents might get busy with work and of the household chores but it is very important that you can spare time to spend with your kids. See to it that you can spend a meal with them in a day. Or after work talk to them how their day went, how was the school, and everything.
As a mother or a father, you have to deal with many things and parenting is just one of them. Try not to converse with your children, but have a heart to heart talk. Make sure that you can connect to your kids and build a lasting relationship with them.